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Papi and Gogo on the Pink Couch

My daughter and I recently did a co-lab in which we interviewed my parents, aka Papi and Gogo, about their childhoods, play and sibling experiences.

Q1. What did you like to play when you were a little girl/boy?

Gogo: I liked to play “I declare war” and “hide and go seek” and also “charms” – similar to marbles but played with tiny little Disney characters.

Papi: Tree climbing was my favourite thing. And I really enjoyed reading.

Q2. How many brothers and sisters do you have?:

Gogo: I have 4 brothers and 1 sister.

Papi: I have 4 brothers and 3 half sisters.

Q3. Did you ever fight with your brothers and sisters? If yes, what did you fight about? If no, how come?:

Gogo: I fought with my brothers while playing Monopoly and cards.

Papi: I never fought with my sisters who were much older than me. I rarely fought with my brothers. How did you rarely fight with your brothers??!! We had a very strict father, if we weren’t nice to one another, he would smack us with a stick. Our mother would smack us with a hairbrush. (Yikes!! Mostly, times have changed in this regard).

Q4. What advice can you give to siblings to get on better with each other?:

Gogo: My advice is to show respect.

Papi: To play with each other.

Q5. Who was your favourite sibling?

Gogo: My older brother Gavin (aka the best Gav ever) because he was kind, smart and we used to cook together.

Papi: When I was small, probably the youngest, because he depended on me a lot, and I taught him a lot of bad things.

Like what? I taught him to smoke. One day my mother caught us. My older brother and I threw our cigarettes away, but the youngest stood with his cigarette in hand saying “We’re not smoking mum.” Needless to say we all got hidings. We were 6, 5 and 4 years old at the time. Yikes.

Sneaky Q6. Who is your favourite grandchild?:

Gogo diplomatically (and honestly) says: I don’t have a favourite grandchild.

Papi: I don’t have favourites. I treat them all equally badly. (Unlike Gogo, Papi is not being honest) I probably give the cereal killer more “grief”. (He knows who he is).

Cereal killer as captured by Papi

Thanks Papi and Gogo for being on The Pink Couch with us!

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