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Papi and Gogo on the Pink Couch

My daughter and I recently did a co-lab in which we interviewed my parents, aka Papi and Gogo, about their childhoods, play and sibling experiences.

Q1. What did you like to play when you were a little girl/boy?

Gogo: I liked to play “I declare war” and “hide and go seek” and also “charms” – similar to marbles but played with tiny little Disney characters.

Papi: Tree climbing was my favourite thing. And I really enjoyed reading.

Q2. How many brothers and sisters do you have?:

Gogo: I have 4 brothers and 1 sister.

Papi: I have 4 brothers and 3 half sisters.

Q3. Did you ever fight with your brothers and sisters? If yes, what did you fight about? If no, how come?:

Gogo: I fought with my brothers while playing Monopoly and cards.

Papi: I never fought with my sisters who were much older than me. I rarely fought with my brothers. How did you rarely fight with your brothers??!! We had a very strict father, if we weren’t nice to one another, he would smack us with a stick. Our mother would smack us with a hairbrush. (Yikes!! Mostly, times have changed in this regard).

Q4. What advice can you give to siblings to get on better with each other?:

Gogo: My advice is to show respect.

Papi: To play with each other.

Q5. Who was your favourite sibling?

Gogo: My older brother Gavin (aka the best Gav ever) because he was kind, smart and we used to cook together.

Papi: When I was small, probably the youngest, because he depended on me a lot, and I taught him a lot of bad things.

Like what? I taught him to smoke. One day my mother caught us. My older brother and I threw our cigarettes away, but the youngest stood with his cigarette in hand saying “We’re not smoking mum.” Needless to say we all got hidings. We were 6, 5 and 4 years old at the time. Yikes.

Sneaky Q6. Who is your favourite grandchild?:

Gogo diplomatically (and honestly) says: I don’t have a favourite grandchild.

Papi: I don’t have favourites. I treat them all equally badly. (Unlike Gogo, Papi is not being honest) I probably give the cereal killer more “grief”. (He knows who he is).

Cereal killer as captured by Papi

Thanks Papi and Gogo for being on The Pink Couch with us!

Thank you, please call again soon!

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