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Values

What do you value most? Recently I was with a group of teens and one of them was talking about how she wants to be famous one day. Perhaps underlying this dream is value for really being known, for significance in a more public space.

That’s great for her, I couldn’t imagine anything worse for myself! It’s just not my value! (Of course I didn’t say that to her!)

        What do you value most?

No, really. What is it? What do you live your life by? If you were to examine how you live, what patterns do you notice come up for you in terms of choices? Your choices and behaviour link to your core beliefs and values.

Perhaps you’re engaged in behaviour and choices you’re not proud of or don’t actually sit “right” in your deepest self. What if these are simply signposts to what your true self and true values actually are!

Maybe it’s time for a pause for reflection to bring your unconscious ways of being into your conscious and reflect on your values.

I’ve added my values to my website. You can find them here, if you’re interested!

 

Thank you, please call again soon!

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Endings

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The ability to respond

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Introducing a small project with mighty results.

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Good Enough

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Am I the problem?

25 October 2024 I don’t take lightly the fact that dozens of parents each year take the step to make an appointment with me and talk about the need for play therapy for their child. For some, this can be an incredibly vulnerable space. Perhaps because of the turmoil they’re going through. Perhaps because it’s…

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Four Harms of a screen-based childhood: Learning from The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt

18 October 2024 As promised in my post a few weeks ago, I am unpacking some of my learning from reading The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt. In chapter 5 of the book he looks at 4 major harms caused by social media, online gaming and increased screen-based childhood in general. The four harms are social deprivation,…

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Mental Health Awareness Month: Spotlight on Men

11 October 2024 It is Mental Health Awareness Month in October. The Masiviwe project has produced a video highlighting men’s mental health. One of the men interviewed states: “If you’re a man, you don’t cry. The question is; if you’re going through pain, where do you go? In your childhood you used to cry. Today,…

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On Not Being Polite

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Awe

27 September 2024 We spent part of the holiday in a cottage in a wood (literally) and got happily snowed in (literally), but only for 24 hours. For a family like ours, born and bred in mostly the sub-tropical parts of South Africa, the snow was a delightful, awe-inspiring experience. We saw the snow forecast…

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