Black and White Roller Coaster

WAW- What A Week

17 November 2023

I don’t know about you, but this has been a WAW – a What A Week week. From the beginning it has delivered curved balls and twists and turns galore. Have you had one too? I see you.

In the midst of a WAW, there are, as always are moments of pure joy and beauty. Like getting this note written on my whiteboard…

Or that session I had with a boy who just wanted to play in silence and I thought to myself “I feel you buddy, I am right here with you enjoying this silence!”


When you’re going through a WAW, there are times you question yourself, you feel defeated by fatigue and not on your “A” game. But you can also feel like you’re still trying your best.

I received this in my inbox, written by Austin Channing Brown and it encouraged me immensely. I hope it can encourage you too.

Two things can be true –

Austin Channing Brown

You can be devastated by the heavy state of the world and are still allowed to feel joy.

You can unconditionally love someone and still remove yourself from their life.

You can adore your family and friends and still need a break from them.

You can be understanding and still hold strong your boundaries.

You can do your absolute best at that time and still cause pain.

You can forgive and not reconcile.

You can be healing and still be triggered.

You can be proud of your progress and still be figuring things out.

You can be strong and still need help.

You can be a person of faith and still struggle with depression and anxiety.

You can come to grips with a loss and never stop mourning.

You can not be chosen and still be worthy.

You can have simple needs and complex emotions.

You can be perfect as you are and know you will never do everything right.


I think I needed that last sentence the most this week, how about you?





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